Have you ever started your morning excited and ready for the world, only to be down and out before the day ended? What about having your entire day crumble before your eyes, nothing going as planned? I’ve been there many times. In fact, I’m sure you have too. We all struggle with how to deal with a bad day.
We all struggle with how to deal with a bad day.
A bad day can be different for many people. It can be a horrible time at work, missing an important function, struggling to stay afloat financially, or family matters that have gone unattended to at home. A bad day can be as simple as a 2nd grader not making friends on the first day of school. Whatever the situation, knowing how to deal with a bad day is important in ensuring that the stress doesn’t accumulate over time.
Why Deal With A Bad Day
Last month I went to school thinking of the great day ahead. My day had started off promising, typical of any regular day. However, it was anything but a regular day. I encountered an individual whom was very frustrated and angered. Their negative attitude and frustrations caused them to lash out at me.
I was pissed.
Inside I was annoyed.
I wanted to give that person a piece of my mind. You know, snap back with a heavy dose of attitude to set them straight. Yep, I wanted to go 0 to 100 real quick.
Of course, for those who know me, know that I could never reduce myself to such behavior. I don’t understand how someone could or would talk to anyone in such a way.
I went home and couldn’t fully calm down until around 6 pm that night. This event occurred at 9 am in the morning. My entire day was spent trying to deal with out of control emotions.
Honestly speaking, I was so worked up because I was not just dealing with that issue but a variety of other issues that had occurred over time. That day just happened to be the day that the pressure finally hit the top.
Don’t let that be you.
Here are my top 6 suggestions to deal with a bad day.
1. Be Alone
Go to a place where you can be away from others. When you are around others the need to keep your composure, will override the need to release your emotions. People will ask you questions like, “Are you okay?” or make statements like, “You need to calm down”. While they may be well-meaning, this type of situation will only make matters worse. Instead, find a quiet area where you can be alone so that you can calm down without people staring at you or attempting to talk to you.
2. Go Cry
The best way to handle emotional situations is to cry. When you release the burden of holding everything in, the healing process becomes quicker. Crying helps you to release the stress that built up, helps you to confront your feelings, and prepares your head and heart to move on in life. For many people, a good cry will help them to feel better afterward because they are no longer weighed down by that heaviness.
3. Deep Breathing
If you find yourself so overwhelmed and out of control that you just can’t calm down, then try deep breathing. In a quiet spot alone, sit down and begin to breathe in and out through your nose deeply. Pay special attention to focus on the actions that you are performing. Deep breathing is a great way to deal with a bad day because it releases tension, relaxes the mind and body, and helps to elevate moods. I love how breathing techniques can reduce stress and make you feel calmer.
The best thing that you can do for yourself is to pray. When I feel that emotions are out of my control, I pray to God asking for understanding, forgiveness, strength, peace, and compassion. At times, nothing soothes my heavy heart and soul, like letting go and allowing God to carry it all.
Psalm 55:22 KJV
Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and he shall sustain thee: he shall never suffer the righteous to be moved.
5. Read A Book
I know a book may be the last thing you want to pick up. However, the book Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day is a wonderful book for kids and adults alike. This book is especially helpful for young children who have bad days and parents looking for a way to comfort them. Even as an adult, this book has helped me to calm down, smile, and laugh after having a bad day. It helps to remind me that everyone has a bad day.
6. Journal Your Thoughts
The last suggestion comes from our desire to share with others what is going on in our lives. However, like many of you, I don’t want to burden my negative emotions on others. A great way to release all of that emotion is to write it all down in a journal. When you journal your thoughts, you are able to speak your mind and rid yourself of the frustration without transferring those emotions on to loved ones. Having a journal is therapeutic and can allow you to review past months to see your progress or growth. Creative journals like this one (here) or traditional ones found here, are great to have by your bedside.
Which one of these suggestions were helpful for you? Let me know in the comments below!